When I Die by Lisa Bonchek Adams

Lisa Bonchek Adams writes movingly about how she wants to be remembered. Here are two excerpts: When I die don’t say I “fought a battle.” Or “lost a battle.” Or “succumbed.” Don’t make it sound like I didn’t try hard enough, or have the right attitude, or that I simply gave up. ... Instead, remember me and let my words live on. Tell stories of something good I did. Give my children a kind word. Let them know what they meant to me. That I would have stayed forever if I could. Don’t try to comfort my children by telling them I’m an angel watching over them from heaven or that I’m in a better place: There is no better place to me than being here with them. They have learned about grief and they will learn more. That is part of it all.