I speak to bereaved parents who are often made to feel by others as if they should “be over” the death of their child. They are told to “move on.” Or, in faith circles, to “be happy he is in heaven.”
Most mental health professionals agree that child loss is probably the most difficult loss anyone has to bear. A simple Google search will turn up dozens of articles that support this understanding of a parent’s heartache and lifelong struggle to embrace the pain of losing a child. Yet most people are unaware of this fact.
So I’m here to tell you — grieving mama, grieving dad —you are NOT crazy! You are not overreacting to one of the most awful things that can happen to someone. Out of order death is devastating!
When asked about his son years after he had died, Gregory Peck replied, “I don’t think of him every day; I think of him every hour of every day.”
I Am NOT Crazy!: