Sheryl Sandberg and Elizabeth Alexander on Love, Loss and What Comes Next - The New York Times

“When I meet a woman wearing a ring on a chain around her neck, I know immediately: member of the club,” Sheryl Sandberg said. “I never noticed before.” That club in question would be the unenviable one for people whose spouses have died. “What I loved about the chain was that I could put both our rings on it,” Elizabeth Alexander added. But these two club members, who met recently for breakfast, have more in common than jewelry.

Both are young widows, and both found some comfort in writing about it.  Alexander says, "If you can stay at the bone of what’s true, then that’s your lifeboat."

Sheryl Sandberg and Elizabeth Alexander on Love, Loss and What Comes Next - The New York Times