How Do People Handle Grief?

From the NY Times, readers give their experiences with grief. Some of their thoughts:

Dad was a fan of Hostess orange cupcakes. Now they are “dad cupcakes,” and finding them at any gas station or bodega is an immediate comfort to me. Though I’m eating fewer now than when he passed, they always do the trick. — Sarah Luciano, Highland, N.Y. ⬥ My beloved grandmother was a very loud sneezer. Whenever I sneeze, I’m happy when it’s loud, because I’m reminded of her. — Terri Foland, Half Moon Bay, Calif. ⬥ I lost my sister last year. After dinner, I spend a couple of minutes telling her how my day was, good and bad. I make sure to throw some shade her way, too, you know, for exiting too soon. — Cecilia Kammer, Houston ⬥ My wife used to cut up three prunes for her oatmeal every morning. I use the same small knife on the same small chopping block and cut each prune into three pieces just as she did. — Suzi Wizowaty, Shelburne, Vt. ⬥ When my grandmother was alive, she’d ask me to go fishing with her. I was never able to, but when she passed, I asked for her fishing pole. I hung it over a window as a reminder to never put off spending time with someone I love. — Laura Butler, Charlotte, N.C.

The Last Few Minutes of Life -- Comforting Visions, Final Surge

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The Son Who Tried to Get His Father a Front Page Obituatry in the NY Times

Griffin Dunne writes in New York Magazine about his father's love for the obituaries in the New York Times, which he considered the ultimate imprimateur of a life of meaning and significance. Dunne's father was writer Dominick Dunne, and his best-selling memoir, The Friday Afternoon Club, tells the story of his family, including his aunt Joan Didion and uncle John Gregory Dunne. When his father was dying at the same time as a world-famous politician, Griffin tried to keep his father's death from the paper until the next day. It did not work out the way he hoped, and this is that story.