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Tuesday, June 2, 2026
By September, Nearly a Third of Americans Will Live in States With Legal Aid in Dying
Wednesday, February 25, 2026
More States Allowing Assisted Death
Wednesday, February 4, 2026
Gavin Newsom on His Mother's Assisted Death
Tuesday, June 17, 2025
A Place to Live While You Plan to Die
Friday, May 16, 2025
Friday, December 20, 2024
Study: Cancer and ALS Patients are the Most Frequent Users of Assisted Dying
Wednesday, October 16, 2024
The Doctor Behind the ‘Suicide Pod’ Wants AI to Assist at the End of Life
The world's first assisted suicide pod wraps around the human body like a space capsule, tilting gently toward the sky. The device is designed to look as if the person inside were embarking on a journey, says its inventor, the Australian right-to-die activist Philip Nitschke. “It gives you the idea you’re saying goodbye to the world.” Last month, the 3D-printed pod was used for the first time. In a forest on the Swiss-German border, an unnamed 64-year-old American woman pressed the pod’s button to release deadly nitrogen gas. She died seven minutes later, estimated the Swiss assisted suicide group The Last Resort, whose president Florian Willet was present at her death and was later detained for “aiding and abetting” the woman’s suicide...With the Sarco pod, Nitschke proposes taking the assessment process out of the hands of medical professionals—whom he calls “gatekeepers”—and eventually delegating the task to machines. “I think a machine could do it better,” he tells WIRED. The Sarco machine has the ability to ask its users three simple questions, says Nitschke: Who are you? Where are you? Do you know if you press this button, you will die? If the person inside the pod responds to the questions with the correct preprogrammed answers, a blue button lights up.
Friday, May 24, 2024
She Was Not Incurably Ill But She Wanted to Die -- And She Did
Thursday, March 21, 2024
Khin Myint on His Sister's Decision to Die
Thursday, December 28, 2023
A Loving Brother Writes About MAID -- Medical Aid in Dying
I joined a conversation my sister and her wife were having with a social worker, a new member of their hospice care team. They kept discussing “the MAID,” which I soon came to understand is the acronym for the New Jersey law referred to as Medical Aid in Dying. It allows New Jersey residents with terminal illnesses to choose to end their lives by taking a cocktail of life-ending medications.
This important piece of legislation was enacted in 2019, and as of last year, 186 people had chosen to die this way. (That’s a very small percentage of annual New Jersey deaths.) Julie, a lawyer, had done her research and had told me that the Garden State is one of only 11 jurisdictions (10 states and the District of Columbia) that allow medical aid in dying, also known as death with dignity and end-of-life options....
With the MAID request approved, Maddy, Julie’s spouse of 35 years, picked up the prescription from a local pharmacy. The price: $900, which is not covered by Medicare, the Department of Veterans Affairs or many private insurance plans. A study published in The Journal of the American Geriatrics Society last year found that 96 percent of people who died by medical aid in dying were white and 72 percent had at least some college education. “The reality is that communities of color, for a wide variety of reasons, also are more likely to utilize aggressive care and less likely to use other end-of-life care options, such as hospice and palliative care,” explained Ms. Callinan. People without the resources to pursue MAID may be forced to make a different choice: suffer through a painful death or take matters into their own hands. “Be sure to include these statistics when you write about this,” my sister directed me.
With her pain unabated, my sister’s next task was to choose the day she would die. Our entire family supported Julie’s decision; still, we did not want to say goodbye. We made silly excuses for why certain days were inconvenient.
Friday, November 17, 2023
Friday, July 28, 2023
Sunday, October 2, 2022
"Nature Has Its Way of Ending Life. I’m Changing the Manner and the Time" -- Voluntary Assisted Death
An Assisted Death Machine is Being Tested in Switzerland
Saturday, December 18, 2021
"Don’t call it ‘assisted suicide’"
A letter to the editors of The Washington Post from Donna Smith of Compassion & Choices objected to the term "assisted suicide."
Using the term “assisted suicide” to describe medical aid in dying is inaccurate and offensive to terminally ill individuals, who want to live but their disease is killing them. They just want the option to end their suffering peacefully if it becomes intolerable.
In fact, data from authorized jurisdictions shows one-third of terminally ill individuals who receive aid-in-dying medication don’t end up taking it, but they get peace of mind from knowing they can take it if they need it.
A New Machine for a Gentle Assisted Death
The Washington Post reports on a new machine for those who wish to have an assisted death.
People wishing to end their lives in Switzerland — one of a handful of countries that give the option — could soon have access to a new method: a 3-D-printed pod that its creator says can painlessly end someone’s life in a matter of minutes....
Saturday, August 22, 2020
Monday, March 30, 2020
Canada debates offering physician-assisted death to patients who aren’t terminally ill
Posno figured Canada, which in 2016 passed a federal law on what people here call medical assistance in dying, would be a place where he could set out his wishes to die on his own terms while he was still competent. As it turns out, “advance requests” like the one he tried to make are not allowed.
Now the government of Prime Minister Justin Trudeau has introduced a bill that would overhaul the process.
Polls show widespread support in Canada for broadening access. But much like the law it is intended to replace, the bill has faced criticism — for being too restrictive or too expansive or too confusing.
For Posno, “it failed dementia patients again completely.
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Canada’s law is more liberal than those of the U.S. jurisdictions where the practice is legal. In those jurisdictions, which include California, New Jersey and the District of Columbia, only mentally capable, terminally ill patients with a prognosis of six months or less who can self-ingest the drugs are eligible.
But implementing the law in Canada has not been without challenges.
Doctors puzzled over the definition of a “reasonably foreseeable” natural death. Ellen Wiebe, a physician based in Vancouver and one of the first in Canada to provide medical assistance in dying, remembers hashing out policies in email discussion groups.
Criticism exploded in 2018 over the case of Audrey Parker, a 57-year-old woman with terminal breast cancer that had spread to her brain. Fearful that the disease might rob her of the mental cognition to consent a second time, she scheduled her death earlier than she otherwise would have wished.
Doctors reported that patients were forgoing pain medication, even though it increased their suffering, so they could provide that second consent.
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Canada debates offering physician-assisted death to patients who aren’t terminally ill
Sunday, December 15, 2019
Washington Post: My terminally ill mother wanted to end her own life. What would it take to fulfill her last wish?
On a Sunday evening in July 2018, my 81-year-old mother raised a small red glass to her lips. In it was a mixture of water, grape juice and 10,000 milligrams of Seconal powder, a massively fatal dose of a barbiturate most commonly used for insomnia. She was sitting up in a hospital bed in her Washington, D.C., home, bathed in warm early evening light and wearing a thin white nightgown. She had spent the weekend calling close friends and loved ones to say goodbye, and chatting and passing time with me, my sister and all her grandchildren....According to the D.C. Department of Health, my mother was one of two D.C. residents to kill herself last year using the 2016 Death With Dignity Act. (A third, Mary Klein, the law’s most vocal citizen-advocate, also took her own life but for some reason does not show up in the department’s statistics.) The law, which allows terminally ill patients to end their lives with a fatal dose of drugs prescribed by a doctor, puts Washington at the leading edge of humane end-of-life options: Only nine states plus the District — and just a handful of countries — allow medical aid in dying.... As she approached her 80s she had already decided that, when the time came, whatever illness or decrepitude she might confront, she wanted to be master of her fate....There was no way she was going to let a disease dictate her fate, or try to hang on day after day while it slowly consumed her. “I want to be remembered as ‘Teeny full of life,’ not ‘Teeny the cancer patient,’ ” she told my sister Quinny.
Sunday, December 8, 2019
The (Planned) Death of a Champion
[A]fter more than a decade of uncertainty and pain and joy, of opening her private life to friends and strangers and reporters, of inspiring others, of vexing them, of wishing for the end of her life and at the same time fearing it, Vervoort had invited her loved ones to her home for the most heart-wrenching of reasons:
In three days, she had an appointment to die....
There was, also, a faint feeling of uncertainty in the air — an unspoken question of whether this really was the end, a nanoscopic hope that it might not be. Almost three years had passed since two journalists from The New York Times — the photographer Lynsey Addario and I — began spending time with Vervoort to chronicle the end of her life, to observe a top athlete taking control of her destiny in an extraordinary fashion. Being around her during that time sometimes felt like one extended, indefinite goodbye.
She had come close to scheduling her euthanasia on multiple occasions, but had always switched course, found a reason to put it off. Something would come up. Conflicts would emerge. There would be another date to look forward to, another reason to live....
“I’m looking forward to it,” she said of her death. “Looking forward finally to rest my mind, finally have no pain.” She paused. “Everything I hate will be over.”