Rachel Brougham on Grief

 Rachel Brougham wrote about mourning the loss of her husband on Twitter.  The entire essay is well worth reading. An excerpt:

My life as I knew it changed in an instant. My future as I imagined was stolen. Grief changes your brain chemistry. It changes how you think, how you interact with others, how you work. It literally changes every single thing about your life. Think about that for a moment....You don’t “get through it.” You don’t “move on.” I carry this load every minute of every day and I hate it. I’m an over-achiever by nature and you don’t over-achieve at grief. I can’t “beat it.” Trust me, I’ve tried...I promise that someday you’ll finally be ready to throw your person’s hot sauce/shampoo/toothbrush/whatever away. And if you’re not there yet, that’s OK, too. I promise there will come a day when you can say their name and tell a story about them without tears streaming down your face. You’ll laugh again. And even have good days.